The Key to Real Friendships Without Phoniness with Stephanie

Hey y’all, it’s your girl Phi, bringing you another soul-nourishing conversation on "A Likkle of This & A Little A Dat"! Today, I’m sitting down with my amazing friend Talent Partner - Stephanie Tomais to talk about something that’s at the heart of everything we do here—authenticity. We’re diving deep into what it means to have genuine friendships, how cultural differences shape our relationships, and why so many people are afraid to have real, unfiltered conversations.

We’re keeping it all the way real—no phoniness, no tiptoeing, just raw, honest talk about confidence, connection, and the power of showing up as your true self. If you’ve ever felt drained by fake friendships, struggled with setting boundaries, or wondered how to navigate cultural differences in your relationships, this episode is for you. Let’s get into it!

Episode Highlights

1:25 – What A Little of This and A Little of That is all about—real talk, real stories, real growth.
4:12 – The foundation of Phi and Stephanie’s friendship—asking questions instead of making judgments.
7:15 – The spiritual language, if he is willing that will happen.
12:23 – We say what we mean, mean what we say. If you love me, call it out
18:05 – Leave who they say they are. Coming off as intimidating. 
23:44 – Showing up as yourself. Creating a sisterhood.
26:55 – In every friendship, fills a part of you and creates you.
28:30 – Closing words

Let’s connect!

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Whew, what a conversation! Remember, the people meant to be in your life will embrace you for who you are—no filters, no masks. So if you’re ever tempted to shrink yourself to fit in, don’t. The right ones will see you, love you, and grow with you. If you loved this episode, please rate, review, and share it with your friends! And as always, until next time, it’s your girl, Phi. Enough respect, and remember: if you can’t be authentic, you’re not being you. 💕